I’ve been drafting my wedding invites and am stuck on how to ask my guests to dress formal for our wedding. I guess other brides would be having the same dillema. I think its extremely rude if guests turn up dressed scruffily at weddings because its so disrespectful to the couple and the effort they put into the wedding. Just as you dress up for job interviews, you should look just as presentable at someone’s wedding. I am even tempted to ask the bouncers at my venue to not let any guests in if they are under dressed. Too bridezilla? Or reasonable? 

• Informal Daytime: Short dress or suit (business attire OK for morning weddings)
• Informal Evening: Cocktail dress
• Semi-Formal Daytime: Short dress or suit
• Semi-formal Evening: Cocktail dress
• Formal Daytime: Short dress or suit. Hats and gloves optional.
• Formal Evening or Black-Tie: Long or dressy short cocktail (beading, glam accessories, wrap)
• Ultra-formal or White Tie: Long gown, extra glitz (furs, diamonds, etc.)

Anyways, for guests, when the invitation does not specify a dress code, then morning dress should be worn. If you are still unsure, you could ask the bride’s mother.  Or dress as the grandparents would expect your children to be seen as. 

Girls are recommended not to have bare shoulders or anything white - no body wants to upstage the bride!

Be respectful to other’s cultures. In a Sikh wedding I went to, I saw several girls with bare arms and short dresses. However, they were trying to cover themselves with a shawl.

A hat would block other’s views so try to sit in the back seats for other’s convenience. 

High heels in a garden venue are a disaster. I just start sinking as soon as I start walking and my beautiful shoes get all muddy and dirty.