Writing your own wedding vows
Im a big Gossip Girl fan and last night I watched the wedding of Eleanor and Mr. Rose. It was so wonderful how intimate and simple the ceremony was. The bride and groom said their own vows. Mr. Rose said ‘I take you Elenaor as yourself’ and she said “I am my beloved, my beloved is mine.’
It got me thinking about alternatives to the usual wedding vow - I, (Bride/Groom), take you (Groom/Bride), to be my (wife/husband), to have and to hold from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish; from this day forward until death do us part.
I thought about slightly altering a poem into my vows. I loooove W.H. Auden’s Funeral Poem (okay sounds a bit depressing but it has been suggested that he wrote this when the love of his life died) This poem was also read out in the movie “Four Weddings and a Funeral” I changed the last line and made it more positive so my vows (for now) shall be:
“I take you to be my North, my South, my East and West,
My working week and my sunday rest
My noon, my midnight, my talk by sun,
I know this love will last forever, never wrong.”
So what do you think?
For those who are looking for sample vows:
I, (name), take you, (name), to be my [opt: lawfully wedded] (husband/wife), my constant friend, my faithful partner and my love from this day forward. In the presence of God, our family and friends, I offer you my solemn vow to be your faithful partner in sickness and in health, in good times and in bad, and in joy as well as in sorrow. I promise to love you unconditionally, to support you in your goals, to honor and respect you, to laugh with you and cry with you, and to cherish you for as long as we both shall live.
I (name), take you (name) to be my (husband/wife), my partner in life and my one true love. I will cherish our union and love you more each day than I did the day before. I will trust you and respect you, laugh with you and cry with you, loving you faithfully through good times and bad, regardless of the obstacles we may face together. I give you my hand, my heart, and my love, from this day forward for as long as we both shall live.
In the presence of God and these our friends I take thee to be my husband/wife, promising with Divine assistance to be unto thee a loving and faithful husband/wife so long as we both shall live.
I, (name), take you, (name), to be my friend, my lover, the (mother/father) of my children and my (husband/wife). I will be yours in times of plenty and in times of want, in times of sickness and in times of health, in times of joy and in times of sorrow, in times of failure and in times of triumph. I promise to cherish and respect you, to care and protect you, to comfort and encourage you, and stay with you, for all eternity.
I, [name], choose you [name] to be my [husband/wife], to respect you in your successes and in your failures, to care for you in sickness and in health, to nurture you, and to grow with you throughout the seasons of life.
I, (name), take you, (name), to be my partner, loving what I know of you, and trusting what I do not yet know. I eagerly anticipate the chance to grow together, getting to know the (man/woman) you will become, and falling in love a little more every day. I promise to love and cherish you through whatever life may bring us.